Yesterday, I read a confession on Reddit from a girl who is finally enjoying sex.
“He’s having sex with ME,” she wrote enthusiastically about her new boyfriend, “not just having sex.”
It’s the same with daygame.
The last few days, I’ve just been trying to break through my severe, Berlin-Wall-like approach resistance.
And I’ve made some progress. Partly, it was because I made it so easy on myself.
“Hello, I just want to tell you something… [panting]… I just saw you and I thought you looked very nice. Now goodbye.”
Girls usually look curious and interested when I start this little spiel. But they often look disappointed by the end.
Because I’m just racking up approaches. I’m not making any kind of connection and I’m not really complimenting them specifically.
The good news is, it’s easy to do better than this.
You simply say the magic word “because.” As in:
“I thought you looked nice because this striped shirt gives you a sailory, seaside look.”
If you are currently overwhelmed with approach resistance — as I have been — then even this small twist might be overwhelming.
If that’s where you’re at, fuck it. Just tell the girl she looks nice and stare. Or leave.
But as soon as you get past the worst approach resistance, make a point of interacting with the girl, by talking about her specifics and genuinely complimenting her.
It will make her feel much better. This will transfer to you as well, and make the rough experience of daygame approaching a tiny bit easier.