I was weak and whiny as a child, and I didn’t do well in any school sports.
So for example, I absolutely hated climbing a gym rope.
“How?” I would say. I’d grab the rope and pull for a second, but my hands would burn and my arms would give up. Of course, if the gym teacher was a little more helpful, he could have pointed out the standard rope climbing technique:
You hold the rope with your hands…
You jump up off the ground…
You wrap your feet around the rope and use that to support yourself…
And then you use your legs to shimmy yourself up, while grabbing with your hands a little higher up the rope. And in this way, the whole process repeats, half a foot higher up. Now onto daygame:
I’m finally approaching.
But many of the girls I approach genuinely get startled or even scared.
Maybe it’s that girls around here really aren’t used to strangers. But more likely, it’s just that I am coming in stiff, jerky, and forced. Fortunately, the standard rope climbing technique applies to daygame as well. It goes like this:
You plaster your best imitation of a Duchenne smile on your face…
You come in a little slower, louder, and larger than you normally would…
And you maintain eye contact at what feels like a psychotic level.
Do this consciously a few times, and your internal state will adjust as well. You will become a little less stiff, jerky, and forced. And then the whole process repeats, half a foot higher up along the daygame rope.