I saw an interview once with Neil Strauss aka Style.
The interviewer, Andrew Warner, was nervous for some reason. He admitted this to Neil and asked for advice. Makes sens, since Neil is a master interviewer himself, on top of being a big-name PUA.
“You’ve already done the best thing you could,” Neil said. “When there’s something hanging in the air, it’s best to call it out.”
This applies when you’re the one being nervous or awkward… and in other situations, too.
Like today, when I went out for daygame. Two of the girls I approached reacted a little off.
One got cold and defensive when she realized what was going on.
The other simply seemed so shocked that she couldn’t say anything.
In both cases, I kept going with my little spiel as though nothing odd is happening.
Which is an ok strategy in an instance of awkwardness.
But a better strategy might be to do what Neil suggested:
Be in the moment…
Be aware of what’s happening…
And simply call it out.
TO THE COLD, DEFENSIVE GIRL: “Oh I like how you got so serious right now. It’s like you’re getting ready for a fight.”
TO THE SHOCKED GIRL: “I feel a little like an extraterrestrial. You’re looking at me like you can’t believe this is really happening.”
Don’t be judgmental or accusatory if you do this.
Instead, be amused. Friendly. And give the girl a chance to change her mind and get back into the conversation.