At the end of my daygame set yesterday, I stopped a beautiful black-haired girl.
“I just saw you from over there… I thought you looked really nice”
The girl screwed up her head and furrowed her brows.
“I think we’ve met before. You said the same thing then. Thank you.” And she walked away, shaking her head.
Somehow this shook me.
So I knew what I had to do. I walked around… looking for another approach.
Because I read in Daniel Kahneman’s Thinking, Fast and Slow that human beings evaluate experiences based on two things:
One is the most emotionally salient moment.
The other is the end.
In other words, if you have 6 reasonable but forgettable approaches, and then one bad one at the end… it is that last one that will color how you remember that entire set. You will go home with a lousy feeling, and tomorrow, that feeling will linger.
The fix is simple. Keep approaching. That’s what I did.
It was unlikely that I’d find another set that was more emotionally salient than the re-approach… but I could definitely find a better ending for the set.
So I stopped another girl and gave her a compliment. She was pleased, and I got out of my head a bit. I could go home, with that positive experience being the end of the set, and the beginning of a new set for today.