I stopped a colorful-looking girl today.
It turned out she’s a teacher.
She was happy and ready to talk.
But I wasn’t feeling I had done enough for attraction.
So I eventually shook her hand, and moved on.
Because sometimes it’s better to preserve your state than to force a close.
At least, that’s what I remember reading in a post that Krauser had written once, based on the one-on-one coaching he took with Yad.
The thing is, I’m also kind of a masochist.
I like to tell myself I should always try harder.
If it doesn’t sting, it means I’m probably not doing enough.
But you can’t live like this. Not all the time. And yet, you also have to force yourself sometimes, and suffer the sting.
I believe there are many “false dichotomies” in the world.
In reality, these are complex, tangled problems. The solutions genuinely swing between two opposite poles at different times.
But because our minds like simplicity, we want to reduce the number of solutions to one.
Not two.
One.
And that’s why your mind might like to say, “I always have to live outside my comfort zone…”
Or it might like to say, “I can’t or won’t do this because it’s too uncomfortable.”
Neither of these is TRUE. Not all the time.
But our minds would like to have use believe that one or the other is true, or at least right for us.
Because it takes energy and thought to figure out which solution might be right for you at this specific moment.
But keeping both solutions in mind, and spending the time and energy to consider them both, is the only way to make progress. And to be able to keep making progress for a long time to come.