Over the past few days, I’ve been texting with a couple of girls.
One is a girl I’ve already slept with and have kept in contact with.
The other is a new lead.
Each of them writes me throughout the day.
And I write back.
But here’s the trouble:
I’ve found myself checking the phone, hoping that one of them had written.
It’s the typical addiction that comes from having a cell phone — but it’s made worse by the fact I like these girls and I enjoy the conversation.
But it’s no good.
It’s not good to feel this way, for my own mental health.
It’s not good for my productivity.
And it’s also not a good way to keep these girls interested. Not if they are cool and attractive, and they want a cool, attractive man.
Because if I keep this up, then sooner or later, in some subtle way, it will become obvious that the best thing in my life right now is having a couple of exciting text conversations — which is a pretty shit life to have.
And this brings up one of the 16 commandments of poon by Roissy aka Heartiste. Specifically, commandment III:
“You shall make your mission, not your woman, your priority”
As a guy, you have to have your own life to live.
You have to have plans that make you interested and happy.
And you have to be ok whether this girl comes or goes.
Of course, this is a good way to live your life, because you look for happiness within, where you’re much more likely to find it than in somebody else’s hands.
But it’s also the best way to attract girls — particularly cool, attractive girls.
So the next time you find yourself reaching for that phone to see if you have any messages from girls you’ve closed recently, ask yourself:
How could I be using my time in a better way right now?