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The best way to not impress a girl on the street

Yesterday, I was talking to my new “coach.”

And I found myself saying stupid things.

Not stupid stupid.

But stupid as in, things he already knew, things I didn’t need to say, but I was saying in the hopes of looking smart.

It’s a universal rule:

If you try to impress, you end up doing the opposite. Whatever that’s called. Unimpressing.

This applies to coaches. To people you’ve just met at a party. To girls you’ve just met on the street.

Do not impress. Don’t do it. Ever.

“Easier said than done, John Gutter!”

No. It’s not hard to do.

In fact it feels good.

Whenever you find yourself nervous… and you get a hankering to do or say something… and a warm feeling washes over you because you expect you will “feel okay” as a result of it…

Then hold off.

Don’t do anything.

Or do something, but not that thing you think will impress.

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How to deal with awkwardness, courtesy of Style PUA

I saw an interview once with Neil Strauss aka Style.

The interviewer, Andrew Warner, was nervous for some reason. He admitted this to Neil and asked for advice. Makes sens, since Neil is a master interviewer himself, on top of being a big-name PUA.

“You’ve already done the best thing you could,” Neil said. “When there’s something hanging in the air, it’s best to call it out.”

This applies when you’re the one being nervous or awkward… and in other situations, too.

Like today, when I went out for daygame. Two of the girls I approached reacted a little off.

One got cold and defensive when she realized what was going on.

The other simply seemed so shocked that she couldn’t say anything.

In both cases, I kept going with my little spiel as though nothing odd is happening.

Which is an ok strategy in an instance of awkwardness.

But a better strategy might be to do what Neil suggested:

Be in the moment…

Be aware of what’s happening…

And simply call it out.

TO THE COLD, DEFENSIVE GIRL: “Oh I like how you got so serious right now. It’s like you’re getting ready for a fight.”

TO THE SHOCKED GIRL: “I feel a little like an extraterrestrial. You’re looking at me like you can’t believe this is really happening.”

Don’t be judgmental or accusatory if you do this.

Instead, be amused. Friendly. And give the girl a chance to change her mind and get back into the conversation.