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Assumption stacking acronym

I still suck.

I’ll get to talking to a girl. If she isn’t into me, if the vibe isn’t good right away, my brain goes blank.

I can’t even make an assumption about the girl. She looks so plain. Of course, she’s not. My brain is playing tricks on me.

So to play tricks on my brain, I’ve come up with an ACRONYM. It’s to help me focus my attention on a specific facet of this girl, so I can make an assumption about that specifically.

“COLA WAS”

Country — You look French… It must be the croissant you’re eating.

Outfit — Up top, you’re very elegant and professional… and then you have these very, very unprofessional leggings on…

Local — You must not be a local girl. You’re too friendly and nice.

Activity — I get the feeling you’re about to meet your friends and gossip about boys.

Work — You’re studying? Let me try to guess what…

Ambitious — You seem very ambitious. I’m a little scared of you. And I pity all the poor people who will work under you one day.

Secret — Are you the one girl who’s always late to everything and all her friends are waiting?

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Scarcity and the middle-of-the-road approach

She was coming towards me again.

I’d seen her earlier, on the other side of the road, while I was walking through the park. I didn’t approach then.

But now, here she was again, coming up towards me on the street.

She was a large and sexy girl, wearing a blue summer dress. Her giant tits and her giant ass were bouncing violently as she marched down the street.

I let her pass by me and then I turned after her.

She was about to hit an intersection.

I ran to catch her in the few yards of remaining space, but…

She started to cross the street sideways, even before hitting the intersection. And she practically ran into me while I was trying to get in front of her.

So I stopped her right there, in the middle of the road.

“Hello. I just want to tell you one thing.”

She was a little bit amused and a great deal confused. I couldn’t get her to stay there in the middle of the road with me.

So why am I bringing this up?

I just watched a section of the Daygame Blueprint where Yad says he will stalk the girl, following her until he find a good spot to approach. It’s just a reflection of the abundance mindset he’s got.

And I think that’s right.

But I’m not in abundance right now. I’m in scarcity. And stalking girls will make it more likely I get awkward and nervous… or even cop out altogether.

So in these early days, it’s better to have stupid mid-road approaches, than to pretend that I am more successful and accomplished than I actually am.

And if you are not yet at Yad’s level, or somewhere close, then maybe you too should consider approaching girls as soon as you can, instead of waiting for the optimal situation.

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The missing ingredient when girls ignore you on the street

Two girls ignored me today.

I approached one of them on a small side street. I had to jog after her a good distance. Eventually, I got in front of her and said, “Excutes me.”

“Yes,” she said as she walked around me.

“I just want to tell you one thing.”

She kept walking. “I’m in a hurry.”

The other girl was walking slowly on one of the main streets. I got in front of her. “What?” she barked at me.

“I wanted to tell you that you look nice.”

“Thank you,” she said with a scowl and walked on.

I’ve been practicing my approaches, and I’ve been working on two things:

Smiling.

And having good eye contact.

Which are both important. But not 100% enough.

There’s another critical thing which I was reminded of today as I was rewatching the Daygame Blueprint.

“You need 100% conviction,” says Yad.

That’s a vague inner game thing but it matters. In practical terms, it means you have to get all the way in front of the girl… fully intercepting her path (“standing on her rails”)… and in a way, blocking out the sun with your magnificence.

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Don’t be serious in daygame, even as a joke

A few days ago, I stopped girl in a colorful jumpsuit rushing to work through a park.

I guess I didn’t do a good job with the approach, so she was a little startled and shocked.

So I decided to run with it.

I got serious as a joke, telling her she looks, in solemn tons, very nice. And that her jumpsuit is, seriously, very nice and colorful.

I thought it was obvious that I wasn’t actually dying. I thought the fact that I was complimenting her out of nowhere would be enough for her to light up with a smile.

It wasn’t. She thanked me but she excused herself with a concerned look, because she’s running to work after all.

In short, don’t get serious in daygame, especially during the approach.

Even as a joke.

Girls can’t tell you’re joking, and they won’t get a good vibe from your seriousness.

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Shimmying up the daygame rope

I was weak and whiny as a child, and I didn’t do well in any school sports.

So for example, I absolutely hated climbing a gym rope.

“How?” I would say. I’d grab the rope and pull for a second, but my hands would burn and my arms would give up. Of course, if the gym teacher was a little more helpful, he could have pointed out the standard rope climbing technique:

You hold the rope with your hands…

You jump up off the ground…

You wrap your feet around the rope and use that to support yourself…

And then you use your legs to shimmy yourself up, while grabbing with your hands a little higher up the rope. And in this way, the whole process repeats, half a foot higher up. Now onto daygame:

I’m finally approaching.

But many of the girls I approach genuinely get startled or even scared.

Maybe it’s that girls around here really aren’t used to strangers. But more likely, it’s just that I am coming in stiff, jerky, and forced. Fortunately, the standard rope climbing technique applies to daygame as well. It goes like this:

You plaster your best imitation of a Duchenne smile on your face…

You come in a little slower, louder, and larger than you normally would…

And you maintain eye contact at what feels like a psychotic level.

Do this consciously a few times, and your internal state will adjust as well. You will become a little less stiff, jerky, and forced. And then the whole process repeats, half a foot higher up along the daygame rope.

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The first step after breaking through approach resistance

Yesterday, I read a confession on Reddit from a girl who is finally enjoying sex.

“He’s having sex with ME,” she wrote enthusiastically about her new boyfriend, “not just having sex.”

It’s the same with daygame.

The last few days, I’ve just been trying to break through my severe, Berlin-Wall-like approach resistance.

And I’ve made some progress. Partly, it was because I made it so easy on myself.

“Hello, I just want to tell you something… [panting]… I just saw you and I thought you looked very nice. Now goodbye.”

Girls usually look curious and interested when I start this little spiel. But they often look disappointed by the end.

Because I’m just racking up approaches. I’m not making any kind of connection and I’m not really complimenting them specifically.

The good news is, it’s easy to do better than this.

You simply say the magic word “because.” As in:

“I thought you looked nice because this striped shirt gives you a sailory, seaside look.”

If you are currently overwhelmed with approach resistance — as I have been — then even this small twist might be overwhelming.

If that’s where you’re at, fuck it. Just tell the girl she looks nice and stare. Or leave.

But as soon as you get past the worst approach resistance, make a point of interacting with the girl, by talking about her specifics and genuinely complimenting her.

It will make her feel much better. This will transfer to you as well, and make the rough experience of daygame approaching a tiny bit easier.