I was on an abandoned street today when I saw a little blonde girl coming towards me.
She seemed mean.
To make things worse, there was a man walking a few steps behind her. He would be certain to see my making my daygame approach.
Somehow, I steeled myself and turned around and ran in front of the girl.
She turned out to be very sweet. A Finnish girl, in town for a few more hours, before she leaves for a sailing trip. We talked and she seemed a little sad when I let her go. It was stupid of me — I should at least gotten her contacts so we could stay in touch.
But the real point happened afterwards.
Because I realized the guy who was walking behind her completely disappeared.
He must have passed while I was talking to the girl. But I didn’t see him at all.
That’s part of the 100% commitment that should be there for every approach.
And it’s a little lesson for for the next time you think there’s an audience and it’s keeping you from approaching. These people can vanish magically. All you have to do is to make a 100% committed approach.