Here’s a problem:
I only really feel comfortable approaching girls using the Yad stop.
It’s not a HUGE problem, because most girls in the city are walking. But not all.
Some are sitting. Some are standing around.
Now it seems like the typical daygame routine would work just as well on stationary girls. And I have used it, and it can work.
But I also feel like there’s something off.
I just watched a video from Yad where he’s basically saying, “Don’t go direct in your opener with stationary girls.”
Instead, says Yad, use a cheeky situational opener (“Is this the best coffee shop in all of New York?”) and count on your vibe to make it clear to the girl there’s something sexy going on.
I’ll have to try this.
But I’m still not 100% convinced.
Because another master of daygame, Jim Camp, will tell you that in any negotiation, you don’t ever want to take away your adversary’s right to say no.
If you do, you make them uncomfortable. And you won’t reach a long-term solution that way.
Stopping a girl who’s walking on the street completely preserves her right to say no. She can always say, “Thank, but I’ve really got to go.” And then she can leave.
Not so with a stationary girl. So how to preserve her right to say no, without weakly verbalizing it? I don’t know, but I’ll keep searching for an answer.