How to adapt after you crumble under mounting daygame pressure and routine

Today was a total daygame failure. I did one approach — which went well — and then I got nervous and didn’t do any more.

I’d been making solid progress over the past week, but it seems my mind and body are revolting. So I thought of different ways to deal with this. Maybe you will find one of them useful:

1. Schedule in breaks. Plan a day when you won’t approach, or when you will approach less than you would normally.

2. Change locations. Go to a new part of town where you don’t normally approach. Or go to a new town altogether.

3. Break up the work throughout the day.

4. Take microbreaks. Lie down or sit down. Go into your mental quiet room. During the daygame session itself, and during the rest of the day as well.

5. Make it into a game. Approach only girls wearing white pants. Compare each girl to some superhero. Accuse each girl of a different dangerous or shady profession.

6. Reframe. Like Arnold Schwarzenegger who said he really got successful as a bodybuilder when he started to see pain as weakness leaving his body. Search for a similar reframe that you can believe in.

7. Take two steps back. Take some weight off, just like bodybuilders do. Except I find that taking one step back is often not enough. The mind knows that the the step at which it failed is just around the corner. That’s why it’s better to take two steps back, and then gradually ramp up again.

8. Keep fueled up. Sleep, food, water. Also having social interactions… reducing money worries… minimizing external stress or anxiety.

9. High to low to high. Alternate doing the hardest first while you have energy, and then the easiest and most pleasant when you need a break. And then go back high.

10. Keep problem solving. Tried all of the above? None of it worked? Keep looking for new ideas, inside yourself and outside, for how to keep motivated and active.